The ENFP Writer

  • Failure of processes not failure to deliver

    Also if there’s rigidity shown by management- it doesn’t help

  • We are human beings not human doings

    Work is something that we do, not somewhere that we go.

    I’m a big believer of learning experiences. I read something recently, that in order to support your staff, there needs to be large margins for error, so if there are errors, there is also space for learning. Small margins for error don’t allow learning, as you’re always being dictated by what the manager wants

    This stood out for me.

    I don’t learn by attending courses- I’m a practical learner. The real learning happens in our day to day. And there needs to be space for that. Knowing this also took a pressure off from me- and encouraged me to spread out my tasks more- allowing more space and breathing room, incase errors were to occur- and infact if I wanted learning to take place

    The issue is not In the repetitive work. The issues is 1) if there isn’t a learning culture- spaces for a boss to reflect with you and 2) It’s not being encouraged to faill

  • For me…right now…Work is something that we do, not somewhere that we go

  • Coaching

    Does this serve the version of you that you want to be?

    I’m hoping that via these questions , I can understand better where the overwhelm and anxiety is coming from

    I’m trying to build the lifestyle I want- and it’s a marathon not a sprint

    Building into the slowpreuner The art of doing less

  • To pivot, to transition and to date to be different

    This is my tribe

  • The power of knowing that I don’t have to just fulfill one role in my life

  • Starting to use time as my currency- like a portfolio- what do I want to invest my time in. Week. Month

  • strengths

    Strengths

    Strengths get me excited because they’re a form of self love. It’s a way of not loosing yourself. It’s a way of always keeping yourself in the equation. So often we can loose ourself- and that’s happened to me, anongst work and family life.

    Writing is something that I want to do more of. I love open and inviting language. In my fast paced NHS role, I’m always runnng fast, so any writing is quick and not thought through. I want to slow down the pace and think about my message. I’ll be starting a blog about my journey. I love thinking about the lifestyle I’m trying to build. I also think this is a journey of balancing health and enterpreunership

    The other thing- I’m learning to love is my performer strength. It means that a role involving training is up my street. And I love the idea of community building. I need to unpack this one abit more. But it means I’ve got a focus on what I do in my 9-5. In a role- it might just mean- going into work 2days/week- being a performer.

    It may also mean that I don’t actually do any training till later- April/May. The main performance is getting me out of the house

    All of these things- are the things that keep me more engaged. And thats all I need

    Also nurturing strengths- I believe is a long process- not just a couple of mentoring sessions. It’s about the actions taken.

    NHS doesn’t allow for much creativity. So that’s why my 5-9 needs more of it

  • Maybe I’ve been focussing too much on the problem- of not making time for myself

    But what I need to focus on is what is it that I want to move forward.

    For me- I want to move forward my writing project - I also want to move forward my learning in this positive psych/occ psych area - I also want to move forward with networking - I also need to keep an eye on my self care and connecting

    The writing project helped because it was a structured way of inching me forward. Similarly, messaging 2 people per day, also helped to inch me forward.

    Maybe I need to step back and not be hard on myself. Maybe I need this break for self care more than I thought (The laptop is also a part of self care)

  • It just feels like every season is bringing a new challenge.

    I need it to stop. But maybe I actually need to build a stronger internal

  • Narrative

    We want to create a narrative so much- we want to make sense of it all. However in fact, it’s only looking back that all the dots will connect

    In the present, we just need to trust, embrace and let go

  • This blog has provided me an amazing platform to use my skills- to write.

    I’m hoping to take on some projects to increase my knowledge. I’m not sure what it looks like at the moment but it’s something to explore. An issue is that I have so many interests. How do we know when to take that next step

  • Do we ever stop to think, that what we’re experiencing is situational?

    I’ve always believed- Your situation will only change, if you change yourself first.

    Conflict?

    Maybe it confirms, us being in different situations, as opposed to ‘us’ as a person

  • It’s ok to not knowing what you’re doing As long as you’re honest with yourself

    Your self belief will take you a long way Get comfortable with uncertainty

  • It doesn’t matter what you do, but what’s important is getting yourself to that state of calm amongst the chaos

  • To live life unapologetically. On your own terms

  • The problem. Not knowing where you want to be Take out the barriers

    You have to arrive there in your mind, first.

  • The blessing (that you can only see now)

    It’s amazing what happens when you can slow down your mind and find some clarity

    The biggest blessing that my family could have given me was allowing me to pursue a career in psychology.

    Here’s why…. - A degree in psychology can lend to different career paths. Unfortunately, I got very fixed on one. But choosing this path always reminded me that I have options. I also think that studying my degree wasn’t too inspiring. The lectures were dull, there weren’t many seminars. Its only where I got freedom to do my dissertation (in risk taking by the way) that I actually really enjoyed it. That’s for another post

    • In uni and and in jobs, I’ve always been surrounded with people who were empathic, caring, real people people and understood mental health. That massively helped with my own journey

    • Working in mental health always gave me that direct feedback that I’m helping someone. It’s always been rewarding

    At different stages in our lives, we may want different things from our careers. I’m also trying to find acceptance that it’s ok for me to try something new.

    I like to think of this analogy. Walking along an golden gravel path with the beauty of green all around. You’re carrying a suitcase. It would be awful to drag the same tattered bursting suitcase through your life time. You have to let go of some things. It’s neither a good look either. Your next path or certain circumstances may require different things of you. It’s YOU that it needs. Not the the things that you carry.

    So I guess I’ll finish with this, Let go and lighten your load

  • I read something… This wasn’t 365 days This 365 battles

    To which we’re stronger for!

  • 2022 The year to create.

    For the past 20 years or so, I’ve seen things very differently. It was about achievement. You’re either smart or you’re not. It’s competitive and only the best get there. It’s pushed me to the next level What a bizarre way of thinking?

    I love the idea of creating. Having a vision and getting to work The future can be whatever you want it to be. The freedom Creating in your own lane. It’s your own race

    I’m looking forward to fill this blank canvas of 2022

  • 2021

    Oh what a year!!!!! The year I got not 1, not 2 but 3 jabs!!!! Who would have thought it

    It’s a shame that we’re here again- in this limbo of isolating, not being able to see family and friends, cases rising. But I hope it doesn’t distract from the incredible year we’ve had.

    It’s been a journey. I’m not where I want to be, however, I know I’m not the same person I was.

    I’ve had challenges and what’s stood out is how I’ve bounced back up. I don’t know how to be honest.

    My word for 2021 was compassion and this comes just abit more easier to me.

    For 2022, I want to feel more grounded. I also want to feel like I’m adding value. I want to do more of what sparks me and brings me joy. And I want to be more organized in balancing the demands of work and home life.

    I also want to use 2022 to take more risks.

    2021….leaving behind the negativity and doubt. 2022…this feels like an entire new platform and space….free and detached from anything in the past

    Let’s take a step

  • Boxing Day is the underdog for sure.

    The day that you’re allowed to do whatever you like and no-one will ask.

    Unlike Christmas Day, where you know you’ll get asked what you did, what you ate, and who you spent it with.

    Boxing Day is the truly relaxing one

  • Energy I always thought the main benefit of a side project was financial. However, I’ve been in tune with my own energies abit more. And I absolutely need the side hobby for my energy. Right now…that thing that energizes me is writing! I’m not sure writing about what..or why. But it brings a whole new level to me

  • Is it possible for someone whose more people focused be become more task focused? I’m saying yes

    But what would the challenges be?

  • Progress and Growth

    It’s been a very draining day. I’ve had a couple of 45 min intense calls

    The most important thing for me is to be in a role where I can add value. Today alone I’ve had a number of conversations..for work and off-chance conversations online. I don’t know if I added value, but I know one thing is that I understood the difficultly and I could be human about it. No amount of training can give you that

    I’ve developed a way to do my role- in a way that’s efficient for me and also meeting the clients need.

    I have a better awareness of not giving too much to work too.

    Sometimes we have to look in, to see the real progress

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